In the modern world, letting go is a task that seems beyond the strength of most people, even if they understand the need for it. For it is about letting go of the hold we have on things and people. This concerns the material domain, but also the emotional domain.
The situation that leads us to have to let go
The knight BAYARD was "Without fear and without reproach".
What are we afraid of, if not the future?
What do we blame ourselves for, if not the past?
The one who is "without fears and without reproaches" lives in the present moment, he lives the present.
The one who is subject to fears coming from the past will be afraid of the future and will have a lot of difficulties to live in the present in a calm, relaxed and happy way.
It is therefore the fears, which generate tension, that make us dread life.
Consequently, we will try to do everything to control the different aspects of our life so that what we fear does not disturb the apparent order that we have built. Of course, it never works out exactly as we want it to! That's when we need to think about letting go.
Letting go, but of what?
Fears always translate into physical tensions that have bodily locations that vary from one person to another. Letting go involves relaxing these tensions. But this is not enough. Because physical tensions correspond to mental tensions. It is then necessary to operate a conversion of thoughts: to pass from distrust to confidence; to confidence in Life.
To no longer want to control everything and to accept what comes with total confidence, to let go of the control of our life: both on the material and the emotional aspects of our life.
It is a vast program that requires a complete rethinking of ourselves, of the way we position ourselves in this life.
The conditions for letting go
For the Eastern extremes, an illness is always due to a disturbance of the energy system. And a tightness is a blockage of energy.
Relaxation, associated with a good recirculation of energy, is a prerequisite for real letting go. The essential condition to achieve this is a clear vision of the process and an unwavering will to succeed in this conversion.
By analogy, someone who wants to stop smoking, but who is not fully determined, will not succeed despite his or her apparent will.